Moving in together is common for couples who have spent much time getting to know each other, with it happening after months or in rare cases, years, of dating. While it is a relatively easy thing to do, moving in together may cause serious problems, especially if a couple finds that they are unprepared to deal with each other’s quirks and habits on a daily basis in close proximity, more so for men, whose attraction to women starts of physically. After all, what would happen if that ravishing babe you are dating suddenly turns out to be drastically different early in the morning? That in mind, to avoid making a huge mistake, here is a list of 10 tips to consider before moving in together. Get the facts about list of things to do before you move.
Can You Handle The Financial Burden? Moving in together requires the man of the household to carry majority of the burden, most of which coming financially. With residential flats coming at higher prices, not having enough money to afford a decent apartment for two while still having plenty of money left may make you want to think twice about living in the same roof together soon.
Are You Over The Honeymoon Phase? The honeymoon phase – the first six months to a year – of a relationship is the “happiest” part of any relationship. However, it also is a time wherein you make decisions with an impaired judgement and the decision to move in together during this phase will be born out of emotion and impulses, two things that do not mix well together long-term.
Do You Know Each Other Well Enough? While the purpose of moving in together is to get to know your partner even more, the fact that you have not tied the know just yet or do not have any plans to do so in the near future may mean that you need to do a little bit more of getting to know each other first. Are You Open To Each Other? Living together means having to expose all of your secrets to each other, all of your “guilty pleasures”, all of your peculiar habits, behaviours, etc, of which daily exposure may result to an argument. While arguments are common and can help fix problems in a relationship, it can only do so if both of you are open to each other and can tell each other’s feelings without having to stress about how it will affect your relationship.
Can You Tolerate Each Other? If plenty of your partner’s habits rub you off the wrong way, you may want to think twice about moving in together. In fact, you may even want to rethink the relationship you are in and think of the reasons why you are still together in the first place! Rational as men are, emotions may take the best of you during such a phase.
Are Both Of You Willing to Compromise? What if your partner is busy with work and cannot wash the dishes? What if your partner is unable to fulfil his or her obligations to the house, to you? What if you find her demand of keeping the toilet seat down too much to handle? So many questions, all of which easily answered by one word, compromise. Unless both of you find it easy to find a common middle grounds or give way for the other, think twice about moving in together.
Are Both Of You On The Same Page? Research suggests that if a couple spends time talking about their plans for the future, which usually involves wanting to spend the rest of each other’s lives together, they are likely to have set themselves up for a solid relationship in the near future, making moving in together a seamless transition. Who knows, choosing to live together so early into a relationship may turn out to be a bad decision, which in worse cases will make you realize that your partner is not what you think he or she is.
Do You Accept Each Other’s Faults and Shortcomings? Compromise, openness to each other and finally, acceptance, are all keys to having a successful relationship as a couple moves in together Without these, any such relationship is bound to fail. Do You See Yourself With Her In The Future? Emotional as this may seem, if you, a guy, can see yourself spending a future with her, and find it in your gut that moving in together is the right thing to do and everything else is in place, well, what’s stopping you?
Are Both of You Ready? Moving in together is a long-term commitment. While not in the same scale as getting married, it is the closest thing to doing so, and as the man in the couple, you should be the one to ask yourself and your partner if you are ready to take such a risk. For men out there in the world, keep in mind that the act of moving in together means that the relationship is taking a serious turn, one that could either make or break it, making it important to consider all of these tips above carefully. Then again, these tips may not apply to all couples, which is why, for couples who have successfully moved in together and lived for years, I ask you, what did you do to make it turn to such a huge success?